Change. The first thought that pops into my head are Tupac lyrics. “I changed plans, but I’m still the same old riderrrr, f**ckin’ with a changed man.” While the lyrics have nothing to do with the change I’m getting into, the melody comes into my head and needs to be acknowledged!
Change is a product of growing and getting older, and with having a least the milestone of a birthday each year, change is inevitable (unless you’re born on a leap day but still). I have personally gone through what I feel is a rapid amount of change in the second half of 2018. With the milestone of graduating from college, there are tons of expected and unexpected changes. Even the expected changes can awaken unaccounted feelings. While I could dwell on the ways change has negatively affected me (because in some ways it has), I’m just going to give a quick tip or two on how I’ve been dealing with it.
Set a routine. When I first moved back home, there was a never-ending list of things to do and people to hang out with. As I started to settle in, I began spending more days with nothing on my to-do list. So I set a small routine of activities that made me feel good. Wake up, write, walk, yoga, breakfast then start the day. For me, the routine was a note to myself saying, “if I at least did this, it wasn’t a bad day.” Trust, I don’t always stick to my routine, but it brings a sense of stability and normalcy when dealing with a lot of change at once. Sometimes its about the small victories!
Gratitude. This is my favorite! When I look around, it is soo easy for me to see what I don’t have, haven’t accomplished, or whatever my self-loathing looks like that day. Getting out of this rabbit hole can seem next to impossible, so I started writing a gratitude list. I start with extremely simple notes like “I am grateful for my functioning limbs,” my sight, my breath, my bed and so on. Eventually, I get down to things like friends, understanding, love, creativity, etc. It is hard not to feel a rush of love and positivity when you’re writing about all the fortunate areas in your life. It seems like such as a simple task, but it has truly saved me on some bad days. I’ve made this a daily practice, and it helps me remember the who TF I am when I’ve clearly forgotten!
I could go on, but these are two of the easiest and most helpful ways that have helped me deal with life transitions. My routine and gratitude list may look completely different from yours, as are the changes we experience, so if you try either of these tips make it your own! Change isn’t always bad, but dealing with some of the negative effects has for sure taught me more about myself. Let me know if any of this resonates with you and if you’d like to hear some more tips!